As the semester draws to a close, many MSU students head home for winter break to reconnect with family, relax and celebrate the season. However, for some LGBTQIA+ Spartans, this time of year can bring unique challenges, as home may not feel like a safe or welcoming place. For many, East Lansing serves as their sanctuary, a place where they can be their authentic selves without fear of judgment or rejection.

The holiday season can be particularly difficult for queer individuals who face anxiety and emotional distress in unaccepting family environments. According to the Trevor Project, fewer than 40% of LGBTQIA+ young people find their home to be affirming. As a result, the journey back home for the holidays may feel more like leaving a safe haven and returning to a place of emotional hardship. 

Prioritizing your well-being

 

Mental health is paramount, especially during this emotionally charged season. If returning home feels unsafe or causes intense anxiety, consider alternative ways to spend the holidays:

• Stay in East Lansing: Establish boundaries and create a holiday plan where you feel comfortable.
• Celebrate with friends: Host a "Friendsgiving" or holiday gathering with close friends in a supportive space.
• Travel with friends: Plan a holiday road trip to focus on joy and exploration.
• Create your own traditions: Explore local spots like Strange Matter Coffee or visit the tree at the capitol.
• Volunteer: Giving back to the community can be fulfilling and uplifting during the holidays.

Many LGBTQIA+ individuals cultivate “chosen families,” or supportive, non-biological relationships based on mutual care and love. This concept of a chosen family can provide a sense of belonging and emotional safety during difficult times. 

Campus resources for staying over break

For LGBTQIA+ Spartans living on campus, staying in the residence halls over winter break can be an option through LiveOn. However, the $315 fee for housing and limited dining options can be a barrier for those who lack financial support from unsupportive families. To assist, MSU offers resources for those needing additional financial support:

 

Gender and Sexuality Campus Center: Provides scholarships and access to the Unconditional Love Fund.

MSU is home to numerous registered student organizations ready to support LGBTQIA+ Spartans, particularly during the holiday season:

• The Alliance of Queer and Ally Students
• Arc
• A-Spectrum
• HOUS (Honesty, Opulence, Uniqueness, Strength)
• Pride POCC (People of Color Coalition)
• TransAction
• QT-Grad

Neighborhood-specific LGBTQIA+ caucuses provide safe spaces for support and community-building:

• TRUE (River Trail)
• PRIDE (North Neighborhood)
• PRISM (South Neighborhood)
• Spectrum (East Neighborhood)
• Transcend (campus-wide)

Mental health resources

For those needing additional support, MSU offers a variety of mental health resources tailored to LGBTQIA+ students:

• GSCC request for support
• GSCC mental health and medical care resources
• Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS): LGBTQIA+ services
• CAPS crisis resources

A challenging yet resilient season

 

The holiday season can bring stress and challenges for LGBTQIA+ Spartans, especially those who don’t have a safe home to return to. However, MSU provides a wealth of resources, community, and support to help students navigate this time. For many, East Lansing becomes not just a place to study but a home where they find their chosen family and a sense of belonging.

This season, remember that you are not alone. Lean on your community, access available resources, and prioritize your mental well-being—you deserve peace, joy, and affirmation, no matter where you are.

This story was originally published on MSU Institutional Diversity and Inclusion.